It is strange!! I'm the same way; no one in my real life knows I write fanfic except for my immediate family (parents and sister) because it was hard to hide that from them completely when I was a teenager and still lived with them. I don't know if they realize I still write it though LOL. I have never told any of my real life friends because they would either A) make fun of me or B) want to read my stories, and I'm not sure which would be worse LOL. I've always written under a pen name so no one I know in real life can "find me" online (like students, especially LOL). So the only people I've ever really talked to about fanfic in real life are online friends that I've met, and it is way more uncomfortable than talking about it on here, even with the same people. But it's also nice to be around people who know and accept that side of you. I always feel like there's this huge part of my life that is a total secret from almost everyone I know, and that is kind of awkward too.
That is so funny about your husband! Do you ever ask his opinion on guy stuff? Not sex stuff, per se, but like, "Would a guy really think like this?" I've always felt like most of us probably write the Boys as a lot more sensitive and feminine than they really are, being women ourselves. I look back on stories I wrote as a teenager and the way I wrote the guys, and I think, "Wow, he sounds like an emo teenager girl." Because that's exactly what I was at the time LOL.
Most of my real life friends would probably be super supportive!! Buuuut I would be way too embarrassed to have them read my stuff! Maybe if it wasn't fan fic I would let them read it ...I used to share my original fiction with them back in high school and they loved my writing then. We've been friends for so long that they would probably just accept it and tease me at the same time. I do feel like I'm leading a double life at times! So weird!
I've never asked my husband anything specific, but I kind of model the way the boys interact off of how he and his friends interact. Occasionally, some of the banter that I write is copied from stuff that I've heard my husband say while he's around my friends' husbands. He would probably kill me if he found that out though!!
I know you said that you're single, but would you admit your writing to your boyfriend?? (Only if you were serious about him ... not on like a first date or anything!).
I do feel as if I write the guys as being too "girly" sometimes. But, then again, they are more brothers than friends and all of the brothers I know are pretty soft and emotional with each other when the going gets tough. I feel as though our "emo" version of the boys is warranted based on what we subject them to in the fictional world.