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Just something that's been bothering me...

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MellzBellz:
I really don't mean to start this thread to personally attack anyone. (Uh oh... Whenever a thread starts out like that it's usually not a great sign lol) But I've been reading through a lot of the posts recently and I've noticed that a lot of them just aren't really very nice... I know that you girls aren't vindictively meaning to be bitchy. A lot of it is meant out of humor, but I can see it getting lost in translation to members who don't post very often and don't realize that's just your personality. I love the fact that we're all different people and we all have our talents and our weaknesses and our preferred genres and preferred fandoms/characters to write about, but lately I've seen a lack of respect for differences. We talk about how wrong it is to flame stories and authors, but I've been seeing a lot of that going on here I think without people realizing we're doing it.

For instance all the comments about Oreos... Admitedly I have not read the story, so I can't judge and although it seems ridiculous to us to have merchandise for a story, its the authors choice and to keep a story going on that long and still have a fan base is an accomplishment in itself. And I've heard people on here tear it apart because they don't like it. That's one thing since that story isn't on AC. But what about in a recent thread where people were discussing a slash story they found very disturbing that was posted on AC? I admit it's not a story I'd be comfortable in reading, but some comments passed that line of judgement. What if that author decided to lurk on the boards and saw all of you talking about her story? Imagine how hurt and devestated she'd probably feel.

I know... You're probably wondering where this all is coming from and why do I care so much? I know we had a big debate over the whole Nick romance genre and many of you have been very vocal that this is not your favorite genre. Which is fine. Completely your choice. But I've been noticing "fluffy Nick romance" has become an increasingly negative term. Comments have been made that insinuate that ALL Nick romances are teenyish and completely unrealistic. I admit there are a lot of those, but there are also some REALLY surprisingly deep and well written romances that aren't just pieces of fluff. Writers work extremely hard on their work, no matter what genre and to hear it being dennounced like that is hurtful sometimes. I admit that I haven't been as active as usual here because I'm a bit turned off by the negativity. I don't think the forums are inviting as they first were.

Just something to think about that I wanted to get off my chest. I'm just asking that we try to think more carefully about what we say before we say it. I know no one means to put anyone down, but sometimes it comes off that way.

mare:
You've made some good points and I agree. We have been a little on the mean spirited side lately.

I think sometimes we all forget it's a forum and not a private chat and get carried away from time to time.

Personally i'll try to make a conscious effort to not do that anymore and if people don't like it, you should say something. I commend you for speaking out Mel, i'm sure you were a little hesitant about it.

julilly:
I agree with you completely, but at the same time someone saying they think it's silly to offer merchandise is just as valid an opinion as saying it's an awesome idea, so I don't feel right judging what anyone says or telling them not to say it. 

I'm mean spirited lots of times, but that's because I'm mean spirited most of the time to everyone... and that's just me. Whether or not someone who lurks doesn't bother to learn anything about me before saying I'm an asshole is not going to change the fact that I'm a self-admitted jerk lol

I understand you're feeling particularly picked on because of the fluffy romance thing but considering that the fluffy romances are the most read, most reviewed, most revered fics on the entire site I wouldn't take the lip flapping of a couple people personally -- the genre has proven itself as a fan favourite, so don't worry. :)

You shouldn't let what people say dictate to you... negativity shouldn't push you from the forums, it's then in your hands to either say I don't think that's cool, or start a topic about something else. Be proactive when you feel like things are getting negative rather than just leaving and blaming those people for your departure.

Like I said, all valid points and I'm glad you made your feelings known -- proactivity! :)

honey:
yeah, that's true. And I think it's a lot that we all know each other so well. We know what each other is saying and know not to take offense. People on this board bash fluff more than anything, (except maybe oreo's) and it only makes me giggle and want to write more of it.   BUT, you're completely right, as an outsider coming on here, I wouldn't want to know how cruel we seem. I'll do my best to filter myself too, Mel.  I can be mature, I swear...   Maybe...

julilly:
People still go on LD when anyone's first impression would be that they're a bunch of immature bratty children

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